First and foremost I want to say thank you. Thank you for choosing to follow Christ each day. Thank you for dedicating your life to his cause. Thank you for keeping yourself pure even though your “boys” thought you were crazy. Trust me, that doesn’t go unnoticed. Thanks for holding doors, giving up seats, and being chivalrous. Thanks for treating us women as sisters.
I know you are under brutal attack. The world tells you to be a hedonist, living on what feels good. It inundates you with sex, porn, and countless other ways to waste your time, to distract you. On the other hand, the church hasn’t been too sweet either. With the best intentions they preach that you are video gaming, passive adolescents and urge you to step up, all the while putting and immense pressure on you to be the next Braveheart. Everyone seems to express their frustrations with you ALL THE TIME. I understand and apologize for my part in that burden. The thing is, I see so much potential in you and its hard for me not to get a little frustrated. In those moments I have let my words cut you down, not build you up. So, here is what I want you to know, without the heat of the moment fire.
I want you to know that I believe in you. I know that you have the power to do immeasurably more. When I see you I see glimpses of Paul, Moses, Johnathan, David, Joseph, and countless other men in the bible. I see reflections of Jesus in your actions and words. I also see places where you have grown tired of fighting. Tired of fighting the world and its influence. I know some of you are weary and it always seems easier to give in. Its not easy living above reproach, fighting depression, or guarding your heart. And when I see you slip out of the purpose of your lives is saddens me.
But here is the good news. God has already provided you with the strength to overcome. Earnestly I pray for you and ask God to strengthen your hearts, minds and souls. And with faith I believe he has. He has equipped you with everything good for doing His will. Its up to you to rise to the calling. That may mean breaking off your “just-friends-but-not-really” relationships with girls. It may mean coming clean about your addictions. It may mean seeing a counselor or father figure for your depression or insecurities. It definitely means staying in the word daily to fill your soul and renew your minds. And as you do this remember that Christ has made you whole and holy, set apart to proclaim the good news.
Lastly I want to let you know that I will no longer be joining the complain wagon so easily set for women my age. I will stop whining and start praying. I will actively support you as my brothers and go to my Father for what He can only do. I will keep you accountable with love and encourage you. I believe with all my heart that you were made for more. I know you are all capable of being excellent leaders, fathers, husbands, bosses, coworkers, friends, pastors, businessmen, artists, etc. So consider this my enlistment. I sign on to fight with you. Not for you or against you, but with you united as Gods’ church. May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves so that with one heart and one mind you may glorify the God and Father of our lord Jesus Christ.
With all love,
Sophia Dolcine, a Christian woman