Ask Sophia: Just Friends

Last Ask Sophia we tackled a this question:

“That idea of a divine incarnation is silly, why would God want to become a human being?”

Christy Sunshine replied in the comments. here is an excerpt in her post:

“Who are we to try and predict how a God should or should not act? And who are we to know what would and would not work? Furthermore, I think there are greater powers at play here than the mere “wants and desires” of God. We will never fully know the answer, of course… at least, not in this life time, but speculate, we can do. There is more at work between the relationship of God and that of the Devil (and of Sin). The world had been bound by the presence of sin for a long time, and it was not something that could not just be wiped away from a seat in the Heavens. In order to change something on earth, I speculate that you have to play by earth’s rules.”

Thanks so much for responding. You can read the full post here >

Now this week I’ll just go ahead and answer this question i got through e-mail. An anonymous sender would like to know:

“Do you think guys and girls can be just friends?”

I do think girls and guys can be just friends. I believe its imperative for us to learn how. But I think “girl-girl” and “guy-guy” friendships are totally different from “girl-guy” friendship.

I think its so hard to envision an opposite sex friendship because so many of us walk around with rose colored glasses. All we see is potential boyfriends or potential wives its hard to view them as anything else. Think about it. The first thing you do when you see someone is asses their attractiveness. We have to learn to see people as people not our potential “other half.”
That being said I do think that there are definitely more boundaries in a opposite sex friendship because of the way we are made as humans. Remember 1 Corinthians 10:23? It says, “‘Everything is permissible’–but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible”–but not everything is constructive.” There are some things you can do with your closest girlfriend that you just can’t with a guy. You can still have a solid meaningful friendship with the opposite sex but sharing your deepest thoughts or relationship woes is not wise. Some subjects create intimacy that is reserved for marriage.

So that’s my opinion. What do you all think? Comment below and tell me what your experience has been. Also if you have questions email me at and I’ll be sure to include them in the next post!

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